The Xs and Os of Relationships

These two simple letters mean so much more than other letters in the alphabet. They can sometimes be seen on a whiteboard to explain a crucial play in a sporting event. Other times, they can be found together at the bottom of a birthday card to communicate love in the form of hugs and kisses. In an earlier post, these two letters reminded me of the tic-tac-toe game played in a person's dating life. I wondered why someone has to be an "x." Did that mean that they were an "o" during the relationship? The answer is yes. They were an "o" at one time. They were this all encompassing "o" who surrounded the person with love and happiness. In thinking about this further, I couldn't help but come to a simple conclusion, though. Once that happiness and love is gone, if an ex continues to be an "o," the two people will continue to be in this never ending circle or loop that contains the same baggage from the relationship. Ultimately, nothing good will come from it. What was once the love of the relationship is now replaced with the aftermath of the problems of the relationship. So, while the person you were dating may have been an "o" they cannot remain this after the relationship is over. Otherwise, the couple is bound to continue to circle around the same issues of the past. Therefore, the person must become an e"x" in your life.